What we fear most in life is the unknown, and death is the greatest unknown. Death is something we cannot plan for or control, and in a society that thrives on prior preparation prevents poor performance, this concept has not only become something we fear, but something that is quite inconvenient.
The reason we fear death is because our “ego” fears its own annihilation.
“What a liberation to realize that the ‘voice in my head’ is not who I am. ‘Who am I, then?’ The one who sees that.” -Eckhart Tolle
What is ego?
There are two sides to you. Ever wondered who the voice in your head is and who the person is that hears that voice? Close your eyes for a moment and say, “Hello” in your mind. There is a voice and there is an observer. You are not the voice in your head, that is your ego. Your true self is the observer. When your ego cannot draw upon information, solutions, scenarios from past lives to analyze and control a situation it feels threatened. And in the case of death—the ultimate challenge it cannot understand or protect against—your ego can’t handle it. This is where irrational thinking comes into play. Ever been on a plane where you find yourself analyzing the most efficient routes to each emergency exit, forming a truly bulletproof plan in your mind in case you are to go down before you have even taken off? Say hello to your ego. The ego resides in your root chakra, and is precisely what makes us all human. But we are overrun by it and need to find our way back to balance. The ego absolutely has a purpose that should be honored, but it cannot dictate how we live our lives. The ego needs to be loved and comforted like a child.
To help quiet your ego, try showing him/her how good things are right now. This will provide a sense of proof that everything is OK, allowing the ego to calm down. Next time you are feeling panicked and your ego is running wild, tell him/her to look around. There is nothing to be afraid of in this moment. Its important to be thankful for our egos, as they serve a very important purpose of keeping us safe, but it is up to us to soothe them so that they do not call the shots.
Quieting your ego in this life will allow you to let go of the fear of dying. How? Because then you are able to dissociate with your ego and be in total acceptance of the present moment. Then and only then you are free to enjoy life as your true self.
“The more you live in the present moment, the more the fear of death disappears.” -Eckhart Tolle
The present moment, as Eckhart describes, is something we can always cope with. The past and the future have no meaning and no value anymore. Those exit plans and irrational thoughts all become frivolous because when we are in acceptance of what is right now, all of our fears disappear. We can exhale one big delicious sigh of relief knowing that we are totally supported and don’t have to think or fear so much. I mean, I remember how exhausted I used to feel drawing up all of those worst case scenario plans that were never used.
Death is a rebirth. It is something to be celebrated. When we die, and yes you will die and so will I, everything is exactly as it should be. Our souls are reborn, and when they are ready will have another chance for growth and learning on this beautiful earth in another life. There is no end, only now.